Dealing with loss is starting over. Nothing is as it used to be. Life must be picked up again: what has been is gone forever. It is adapting again. Grief is emotional labor. Grieving, dealing with grief, is hard work. Counseling can provide support in all of this.
It’s not easy to find a balance between sadness and distraction. Everyone experiences grief in his or her own way, and every (new) grief process is different. Nor can general statements be made about the intensity and duration of a grieving process.
Reactions and feelings
Grief penetrates deep into your thoughts, your feelings and your body. It works in all areas of life. Grief is often all-consuming, and you can’t take a break from it. No matter how important the task (your work, your relationship, your health) is, grief puts everything (temporarily) on the second plane.
At every stage of the grief, but especially in the beginning, you can be overcome by strong emotions and experience strong feelings that you yourself experience as “not normal” and “not your own”. These emotions can affect your self-image and your relationships with others. Grief is not all grief and gloom. Grief usually means a variety of feelings. Fear, guilt, aggression and confusion can occur together, but (a mix of) positive feelings of relief can also play a role.
The body can also react to a loss and all the changes that go with it. The physical reactions also differ per person, of course. Tension complaints of the neck, shoulders and muscles are common. Fatigue is an important factor in the grieving process. Mourners almost always have great difficulty concentrating and often feel lethargic.
Grieving people sometimes notice that their interests and needs change (temporarily). Many people are no longer interested in the (world) news. The need for social contact, sexuality, food, drink or sleep can “suddenly” change drastically. Often people suffer from insomnia during grief.
When the feelings of grief last long and remain strong, counseling can provide helpful support.
- Sensitively and caringly help you to grieve your loss in your own unique way.
- Part of the counselling can be that I can help you to create a personal ritual. With rituals you give shape to something for which you do not need or need words. Because of their intention and symbolism, rituals have an extremely powerful, healing and transforming effect in the processing of loss and emotions.
- Counselling can help you to find a way forward with any aspect of life.
Contact and appointments
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If you prefer personal contact, you can make a first introduction Face to face appointment or Online appointment.